Not expecting. Yet.
Have you heard the news? Another December 2014 bride is on the family way. That makes 3 pregnant celebrities who walked down the aisle around the same time that I did.
They are pregnant. Expectant moms. Yay!
I am not.
Are we trying? We said we would. And we said that we would make lifestyle changes so we can really have a fighting chance of having a baby soon. So far, none of what we planned has yet happened. And there is no baby on the way.
Now how do I really feel about it? Every time I hear about another woman my age getting pregnant, I think I worry more about getting asked about when it will be my turn. It’s that more than feeling sad or envious that I am not yet pregnant. I don’t have the right to be sad, or envious. I haven’t done everything to prepare myself and my body for that blessing.
I don’t exercise.
I still eat pretty much anything I want to.
I could be more intentional in how I spend my spare time and more proactive at home.
We haven’t seen a doctor to help us find out what we need to be doing to make sure we can conceive. I have lived with PCOS and hormonal imbalance since college. They say it really won’t be easy given that. We are both obese. But there are people with similar circumstances as ours who don’t have difficulty conceiving.
Why haven’t I/we done any of these? Maybe because I am afraid that after all the time and effort, we’ll find that we still can’t make babies.
So there. That’s how I really feel about it.
May 31, 2015 @ 10:41 pm
That question gives so much pressure to most couples who are trying to conceive. I know a few couples who have been married for years and still don’t have kids. I hear that question being asked to them all the time. Just ignore them and do what you want to do. Good luck!
June 1, 2015 @ 10:15 am
Just remind yourself that God will give the desires of your heart in His time. I have a friend who waited so long just to have a baby. First pregnancy was led to miscarriage and it took her 12 years of waiting just to get pregnant again. She did everything. She already gave up and accepted the fact that she will not have a baby but now she has a 5 years old son. #worththewait 🙂
June 1, 2015 @ 1:46 pm
I agree that it was a blessing and will be given at the right time.
I cannot blame you on how you feel about it and I know you are very much pressured.
Just relax and don’t put yourself into stress by thinking too much about it.
I remember, Mommy and I had that blessing two years after we got married. That is the time we were became less stress from work and other stuff. Before that time we used to take malunggay capsules. I don’t know if this also helps.
Allan (www.chemistdad.com)
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June 1, 2015 @ 6:24 pm
At any point in our lives, we’d be asked such awkward questions. When will you have a bf? Why are you single? When are you getting married? When will you have a baby? Aren’t you thinking of child#2? etc etc Breathe in, breathe out, Vera. All in God’s will. 🙂
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June 1, 2015 @ 7:59 pm
I also have a co-teacher who feels the same way. My sister as well. I want them to get pregnant and yet God’s not giving it to them YET. You’ll have your time. Perhaps you need to change something in your lifestyle. Like try exercising for once and stayed committed to it. You may not know that it might help. You’ll never know until you get there.
June 1, 2015 @ 8:05 pm
it’s not yet time i guess but if you try all the work out your doctor recommends you, i suggest to find another doctor that can help. My daughter was born after 7 years with my husband and after two failed miscarriage, my son was born three years after.
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June 1, 2015 @ 8:53 pm
Sis, I have endometriosis. And the only I can say is..Pray sincerely, GOD will answer your prayer soon. Just don’t give up..ok?
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June 2, 2015 @ 11:37 am
Just don’t stress your self too much sis. The blessing will come in God’s time. People will not be contented sometimes and would you believe we are under pressure naman na sundan si Matthew. Hehe.
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June 2, 2015 @ 12:12 pm
It will be given at the right time! For sure the HIGHER UPS had a great plan on when HE will send one. Keep your hope and faith up!
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June 2, 2015 @ 3:35 pm
God has a plan for us 🙂 in God’s time you can have the wonderful gift just pray and do the right thing
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June 2, 2015 @ 4:46 pm
I’m sure your little one will be there at the right time. That question might really bother but just don’t stress out on it so much sis, it won’t help. I learned that one of the best things in getting pregnant is knowing when we ovulate kasi it’s a short window lang during our cycle e. Ovulation is when we have a greater chance of conceiving. I’m not sure if a basal body thermometer is available here in the PH pero it’s one way to check our ovulation daw.
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June 2, 2015 @ 7:28 pm
Be positive sis Vera, in time it will be given to you. But you also need to do your part, with all the medication these days it can happen. I remember my best friend, who after 15 years she is finally pregnant with a twin. She and her husband did not lose hope and had seek all medical treatment they could plus their continuous prayer.
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June 2, 2015 @ 8:28 pm
All in God’s time, Vera. I think the best thing to do is work out, like take a walk with the hubby every evening or morning. It is a great way to bond and prepare for the little one
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June 3, 2015 @ 10:16 am
The questions will be never ending. Just need to learn to take it with a pinch of salt. It is all in GOD’s timing however you can start doing simply lifestyle changes to make yourself happier and healthier.
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June 4, 2015 @ 8:06 pm
It never ends Sis, In my case, I always get asked if I’m planning to have another baby, when I’m going back in Pinas stuff like that. Just keep on trying and to get pressured at all. God knows when the right time:)
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June 5, 2015 @ 2:57 am
Time will come in all God’s will, for now just have fun and enjoy every moment with your hubby.:)
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June 6, 2015 @ 6:44 am
Your baby will come in God’s time but of course, you will have to make an effort on your part as well. Consult your doctor on what’s the best thing to do about it.
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June 11, 2015 @ 1:46 pm
I agree. thanks 🙂
June 11, 2015 @ 1:46 pm
That’s what we’re doing, just enjoying every moment. 🙂
June 12, 2015 @ 2:01 pm
Once in a while, I will ask my friend who got married last year whether she is in the family way. When she says no, I would tell her to enjoy her married life. She wonders why I don’t push her to get pregnant right away, and I tell her that we should live in the moment.
All the best.
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June 13, 2015 @ 3:41 pm
The right time will come, sis. Better see a doctor to see what you need to do instead of stressing yourself. 🙂
June 17, 2015 @ 9:25 pm
Don’t lose hope! Just hold on and it will be given at the right time. For sure the HIGHER ups got better plans. 🙂
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July 9, 2015 @ 2:35 pm
I understand the pressure but don’t succumb to it. You’ll have your own, in God’s time. Keep the faith.